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Asking if they thought their teachers were "hot" etc. I am trying to combat this! My husband is an amazing role model of how to treat a woman and I continually use our relationship as a great example of respect and love. The social worker at the school lectures that they are too young for girlfriend and boyfriend stuff, so I have just stuck by that notion. Now what?
My thought is they really are too young. I started young and just continued to get braver and believe me I have a ton of regrets on this subject!
So, I am not sure how to approach it now. My older son 11, is really not interested all that much yet, but he is definitely listening closely to the conversations.
If you don't want him to go that route yet then just explain to him why. If it is because you rushed into things to early then tell him that leave out details of course. Once you give him your true honest reasoning then tell him to just down play it at school. If he doesn't give it energy then the other kids will be bored with the subject.
Since he is starting to show interest in other girls you may find that he may just kinda "go out" with them anyways. Sometimes curiosity gets the best of them.
The biggest thing is to keep the line of communication open. Be honest with him good or bad! You want him to keep coming to you with these things and you want the opportunity to guide him.
That way when he does start "going out" with girls you are involved and hopefully teach him to make the right decisions.
By the way good for him telling his friends that his mom won't let him. At 10 that is the perfect escape goat.
I will be blunt so as to be clear. There is so much sex in middle school these days that there are actuallly girls who tell the boys that they're having a blow-job contest, to see who can give the most blow-jobs in one week.
Then the girls try to schedule the boys into their calendar for that contest. Massive numbers of sexually transmitted decisions. Including in their mouths! I wouldn't even let him KISS these girls! Move to a slightly more upscale or more rural area. There will statistically be more of this behavior amongst dense populations of poor people. Start going to church and get the kids involved in the once-a-week youth groups. These groups talk about purity and chastity, and there's peer support to remain chaste.
I've been going to the same church forever, and there's only one kid I can recall who went down the wrong path. Transfer the boys to a Christian middle school. This is the grade-range where "going down the wrong path" is most likely to occur. Get books and videos about slutty sex and how it destroys the love and respect people have for themselves and for each other. Make sure you frequently review the horrors of all the rejection after the sex-relationships are over, the diseases, including the fatal ones, and pregnancy.
Drastically change around the family's expenses so that you can always be home when your son is home and this includes skipping any type of daycare. These two media outlets train our children to accept a lot of awful behavior violence, sex, and just plain being mean and sarcastic to each other.
I have implemented several of these strategies I have daughters! When I quit my job, our income fell in half, stopped buying major expenses like vacations, cars and home repairs, and I'd do it again in a heartbeat. I agree that 10 is to young. And this was always known to my kids.
They didn't always like it, but they understood my reasoning. For my house dating is a privilage, no different then driving a car, playing video games etc.
At this age they have one job. We, as parents, have such a short time to set them up for thier future, why complicate it so early? Talk with him and be completely honest, but let him know that you will stand firm in whatever age you pick, and that you are doing it for him because you love him.
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Funny story, my know 15 year old came to me last year and said she was glad that I had the 16 age, she saw how "stupid and immature" her friends were acting over boys.
She liked being able to say "Sorry my mom won't let me", especially to boys she really doesn't like. She is interested in a boy, but knows that if it's going to happen waitning a little longer isn't going to hurt. Your gut is right! He is far to young for "dating! I say this is something his father should discuss with him. If that isn't a good idea, then give the job to your husband.
Have your husband explain how now days boys in general disrespect girls, and girls just let them so that they can feel like "part of the crowd. He may need a little help from you. If he doesn't know about sex and the consequences by now, he should. They are doing it way younger than we did.
Kids should only be told certain things on a need to know basis, so if you or your husband have any experience on the subject where it can be helpful for him to understand why it is a bad idea to "date" this young, you should tell him the story because it would be of value to him, a learning experience.
Yes, the kids will think this is lame, but it's your job to parent and keep your kids safe. Keeping him from following the other kids on this one is a good start, and he will thank you for it 20 years from now when he chooses a nice woman for a wife. You have to think long term, not in the moment.
One more thing, most of those kids he is talking about, down deep would love the kind of guidance and love from their parents that you are showing your boy. This is definitely the thing that kids are doing these days, and I also agree that they are too young at this point.
Whatever you decide, I hope you will communicate your reasons clearly to your son. My kids have told me plenty of the kids at school do it behind their parents back anyway, so it's good to convey reasons that make sense to the child in question, and possibly to discuss what age you are okay with it.
At least at 10 they are usually still young enought to listen to reason. This sometimes goes away with the teen years!
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Good luck! Ok I am 26 years old and can remember being in 4th grade and having this same problem with my parents so I think I can give you some good insight to both sides.
You have reacted the same way my parents did but really that seemed to make things worse. It's pretty innocent.
But my parents were so worried that they told me and my sisters we were not allowed which just made it a bigger issue. It became such a big deal that I couldn't go out with any of the boys and I was like the "forbidden fruit. Like no going to the mall together or the movies etc. So I understand you want to protect him but he is a boy and will like girls and look at girls regardless of whether he can "go out" or not with them. So just try to not worry about it too much.
It's pretty innocent right now. You mostly got great advice. Though to dispute one post I must say that these kinds of issues, including those mentioned for middle schoolers, happen in ALL areas in ALL schools. But you probably weren't disputing that, I just had to mention it! Anyway, it sounds like you are very well aware of your values and position on the subject, you just need to refine it and define it for your kids. We often get to thinking about what we don't want the kids to do, and forget to tell them what they can do.
If your son is feeling some interest in the girls, you already know you can't talk him out of that. So have a conversation that sets up some parameters and helps him feel some ownership.
If he wants to "go out" with a girl, what does that mean for him and explain that you would like to know what it means for other kids, but that you have your own family rules and expectations for him. What CAN they do- sit together at lunch? This lets him help define going out, and gives you the chance to also say that you don't want him to kiss, hug, hold hands, whatever.
Give him both sides. And because he'll be a part of the discussion, he feels some power over it. Which also means that you can say if his grades drop or other problems occur, you will need to revisit the issue and possibly not allow any of it. Maybe it will be an incentive? Anyway, hope that helps a little.
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As a funny side note, my daughter is 9 and my husband told my daughter that she can not have any crushes, and further that no one can have a crush on her! Obviously my poor husband is having a hard time with the boys taking an interest!!
But that's what got us talking about how to handle the situation at this age. He's settled down a bit, I can only imagine him when she is old enough to date.
I may have to sedate him. I think it is awesome your son is talking to you. I think a great way to approach it is to ask him what he thinks the pros and cons are and to make out a list to make an educated decision.
I think you could also make a list and then the two of you compare notes and have a discussion, ask him to keep talking to you that you respect him and his decision. I know that my parents had a no dating rule until 16 but my parents encouraged us to hang out in large groups without paring off before that. I personally think it helped me to see I didn't want to just be with one person at that age. I had a boy I really liked ask me to "go" with him in 8th grade and I remember the conversation we had about how I liked him but I didn't "go" with people.
He said your parents don't have to know.
I said I know-but I have chosen not to. I don't feel like I am ready for that kind of commitment but I really want us to be friends and hang out.
He seemed sad but okay at the same time. He got a girlfriend a few months later and it was sad when they broke up because it put a lot of pressure the whole group of friends because it wasn't amicable.
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Feb 21, Which sucks, but society has influenced our younger generation to begin this horrendous cycle. Because most of the time, the kids who 'date' in elementary school, are the ones who get into trouble in high school with guys, and dating, a lot. Hopefully, parents do something to stop it, because it's ridiculous. Hope I helped. One recent study from the University of Georgia evaluated the dating habits of students in grades 6 through 12 from six Georgia school districts over a seven-year period. Students who reported dating since middle school demonstrated the poorest study skills in the group and were four times more likely to drop out of high school.
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