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Yes-not exactly what we expect to hear about the Amish. I'm learning that the more I learn, there more there is to learn. I am definitely a bit shocked. I cannot imagine how this even got started. It's just crazy! In my opinion this is a form of sexual abuse for young girls as well as the boys.
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But then there was a schism, and, well, the Mennonites and Amish were born. They have a complicated history and a complicated way of life. Thank you for your comment, Kimberly.
God bless you!
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I am a Christian and a homeschooler and my opinions are far to the right, much more conservative than most anyone I know. My son has never been exposed to sexually explicit movies, tv or music. I am very glad to say he has no idea still about what is out there in the world including pornography. I have guarded his innocence and purity and strongly feel, as the scripture states, that we should not prematurely awaken youthful lust.
I just don't want the thoughts, images, ideas etc put in his head. I know at some point I need to have that conversation with him about the birds and the bees but I want it to be on God's time. My son is I'm glad he is not worldly.
I can't imagine this practice of bed dating having any positive outcome. It's not biblical. I can't imagine God blessing it. I can't imagine Mary and Joseph engaging in it. It seems sad and shameful.
I guess innocence is being compromised even among the elect. We must be nearing the end. Mary, I understand how you feel.
Indeed many Amish find the practice of bed courtship morally objectionable. With that in mind the piece's approach to this practice seems pretty appropriate to me. As an Amish girl in the video explains: "Bed courtship I would just say it's sleeping together." If you've got a .
It is disappointing to learn that such a conservative sect is practicing bundling. The odd thing is that it is a very old way to court, and even though it does lead to trouble among the most conservative groups of Amish, they continue to hold to it because the practice is done in "the tradition of the forefathers". The parents definitely know what it can lead to since they themselves were involved in the practice as teens, too.
Yet, they continue to hold fast to the tradition because they believe it's "safer" than allowing the young people to try another way of courting. It is one of many confusing practices the Amish may follow, yet are not explainable.
Thank you for your comment, Mary. You tell me! This is a practice that has been associated with the Amish but today is typically only seen among more conservative Amish groups. Indeed many Amish find the practice of bed courtship morally objectionable. Is it done? I thought once married they were not permitted to shave their beard.
Hello to you Miss. I must say that your letter got my attention. So that I we can talk and to get to know each other. And maybe we can make plans to meet up and go out to dinner. Email me at Makeingitinlife aol. I saw this on National Geographic. It focused primarily on the young couple who had left their Amish community and were planning to retake their marriage vows.
They did talk to Mr. Keim and to another family whose son was marrying the girl in the turquoise dress above. I was extremely disappointed in the entire show.
It was not that revealing. Left So much unsaid. Hi Mylene, I have not seen the full program but going by the appearance I would say that the grey-haired gentleman was not actually an Old Order Amish person.
I gathered that he was perhaps Mennonite or had Amish roots. As to your question some Amish actually do trim their beards. More conservative Amish are less likely to do so, however.
Beth, good point-and on catching the show, Kim I believe it has already aired but there is another showing Wed Nov 17 at 4pm, according to the site. I have not seen the full show, only this clip-did you mean they focused mainly on the Mary Gingerich who is seen in this segment?
That seems odd that it would be more about ex-Amish, especially since it is billed as being about the Amish and most of this clip is on the Amish.
I particularly found how they addressed bed courtship to be interesting. I know some Amish that are pretty adamant about bed courtship.
Mar 31, I was Swartzentruber Amish I left after my first experience of bed courtship, I thought it was a strange way of dating, and most of my family left but the Swartzentruber Amish still practice that, many have broke away because of that. Combining modern designs and functionality with American Amish craftsmanship, we offer solid wood, Amish beds for every home. Choose a panel, platform, or canopy bed in your favorite hardwood and finish, or finish a four-post, cannonball, or storage bed in your favorite wood stain. Our Amish handcrafted panel bed are a great home for twin, full. Bed Courtship. Some Amish dating relationships start out with a different twist. In the Amish districts that sanction bed courtship, the boy asks the girl if he can take her home. If she consents, they drive to her home. They immediately go upstairs and get into her bed fully clothed, where they are expected to talk all night without touching.
A subtle point I appreciated was that they noted that after graduating 8th grade, interaction with the opposite sex drops off until joining a youth group. It is actually something I have not thought of before but I suppose this would be true, at least to a degree-not having the interaction at school though there would still be other venues.
Very interesting but it has really left me asking more questions, LOL.
I think the buggies may have been racing as the gentleman with the white hair and beard made reference to racing at the time the clip was being shown. Not really sure of what the couple holding hands is all about. It almost seemed phoney, but at that time the ex Amish girl was saying how hand holding was allowed. We seem to have a lot of that in public medias today, not just against the Amish but against Christianity in general.
I have not see the full show and am only getting these impressions from this small clip. Thanks for sharing Erik!! It will be interesting to see what others feel from this as well. The young lady with the light yellow dress seems so Fashion Forward just look at her sleeves and her boyfriend does as well. They make a cute couple.
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The more conservative couples practice traditional Amish dating customs. They date in their buggies and drink hot chocolate or sodas. They focus on group and outdoor activities sometimes with their parents. Couples from more progressive churches that have drifted more toward the modern world might go into town for the evening.
Maybe they will get a bite to eat or just hang out together and enjoy each others company. The most daring couples might change into English clothes, get into a car and head for a party where they can sample worldly temptations. This group is a very small minority.
In the Amish districts that sanction bed courtship, the boy asks the girl if he can take her home. If she consents, they drive to her home. They immediately go upstairs and get into her bed fully clothed, where they are expected to talk all night without touching. Bed courtship is practiced only by the ultra-conservative churches. The parents rely on the church teachings to prevent hanky-panky.
This custom is also known as bundling which the dictionary defines as sleeping in the same bed with somebody while both are fully dressed. Bundling has biblical roots. It is not an Amish invention. The custom was practiced in Europe for centuries before immigrants introduced it to the American colonies. In the past, the practical reason for bed courting was comfort.
When homes were heated by fireplaces and had hard wooden furniture, the bed was the warmest, most comfortable place to socialize.
As fireplaces and hard wooden chairs were replaced by central heating and comfortable sitting rooms, bundling faded almost entirely from the scene. It is interesting to note that the vast majority of Amish society condemns the practice of bed courtship.
It seems strange that only the strictest Amish congregations still sanction it. In ultra-conservative groups like the Swartzentruber Amish or the Nebraska Amish, homes are still heated by wood stoves and furnished with plain furniture with no upholstering.
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