Excited dating a 16 year old and being 22 confirm
FAQ on Coronavirus and Mefi : check before posting, cite sources; how to block content by tags. What are the legal and social problems with dating someone that is underage for the record I live in Arizona. I met this girl who I see at least once a week she works for my mother. I could tell right away that she liked me, and to be honest I thought she was very attractive, but I later found out about her age and decided that I shouldn't do anything about it. That was about a month maybe a bit more ago. In that time she has been overt in expressing her desire for there to be some sort of relationship between us; hugging me when I come by, making me cookies, offering to make me dinner at her house, inviting me to places. All the while I would be as nice as I could without feeling like I was leading her on, letting her think there was something more there.
It should be ok to date that way; I have an ex gf that's 19 and she's engaged to a 31 yr old guy. It's hard on the girl. I am struggling with my parents to aprove of the boy I love. He's 22, I'm It's hard but love is worth all pain. As long as sex isn't in the picture till she gets a little older then its absolutely fine.
I also agree that age is just a number and love can take place no matter the age. If you love her then go for it, its only a 6 years difference and in all honesty that really isn't that big of a deal. Doesn't matter what others may think its what you think about the situation! I agree with your aunt. I feel as if age is only a number.
But, as you are aware, any sexual relations with her, whether or not they are concensual, can get you in a lot of trouble.
You said you're not about sex, and that's awesome. Just be careful. Make sure its ok with her father, too. Dad needs to be a part of this, especially because she is a minor. TBH I think your good! If it were me, I'd wait and see what college brings her, assuming she'll ber more independent from her family, out on her own etc. On the off chance that she's the one for you, she'll still be there.
Do you remember the old saying, "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned"? You do? Ok, good, my work here is done for those of you who are late to the game. Thanks Mr. Congreve posted by bilabial at AM on December 26, I know a guy who is in jail for multiple years for a consensual relationship with an underage girl she was You don't want nothin' to do with this.
Be nice, but be clear that she is too young for you to date. Recommend she date some young men nearer her own age.
Even without the "jailbait" angle, this guy could murder you or get a cop buddy to do it and get away with it. You could be shot while "resisting arrest" or something; not too long ago a cop in my city shot a guy in the back as he was running away "because he feared for his life".
I say date her. Try to stay out of jail. This means having a little sexual discipline, but it isn't like you can't touch each other. Try to take it very slow. She's really young and naive and her parents are divorced so she'll have some issues.
Respect that. Meet the parents. This is always essential when dating. They'll have reservations. Be open and honest with yours.
Dating a 16 year old and being 22
Having a cop in the family is always good. What a bunch of whiners on this thread. Like age gaps never worked out in relationships. Check out the divorce rate. Being the same age never helped anyone. I agree with almost all others. Wait until she is 18 to start dating her. If you fall in love for 'er and 'er and get married, it'll be a romantic story.
I would run run run run from any grown man who dated a high school girl. Sorry, there should be a sentence between sentence 2 and 3: Wait until she is 18 to start dating her.
If you don't, there are two things that will happen- you'll stay together until you die, or you'll break up. If you fall in love A friend of mine, at the age of 22 or so, started dating a year-old.
He learned the valuable lesson that if you actually have to look up statutory rape laws in your area to make sure your relationship is legal, you really shouldn't be in that relationship. A good friend of mine discovered a beautiful girl who wanted a relationship with him He didn't let it happen They've been married over 30 years now and have raised 3 great kids.
I recommend waiting. Wait it out, be a family friend or what not till then.
I'm a 22 year old guy. Is an 18 year old girl too young for me?
I tried that with some one older than me once. Turned out, I was in love and he just wanted to bang me.
It is good to get perspective on intentions for all parties. Let's keep this simple. Your question was, is it okay socially and legally for you date this girl? The answer is no, and no. We're done here. Just a recap of what I said before I don't intend, now, to go after some sort of relationship with her. One thing I don't understand is why love keeps coming up.
I don't know about you guys but I can't fall in love with someone after a month a month of not dating even. I've only been in one relationship before this, it lasted five years and I'm not totally sure I was in love with her, as I have nothing to compare it too.
FauxScot thank you for the kind words.
Being a kid yourself, practically, I would say no. As you get older, a 4-year age difference is relatively minor. When you're 26, maybe then 18 is out of reach. Apr 03, 22 year old guy dating a 16 year old girl? Okay, so I'm the 22 year old guy and my aunt introduced me to a friend of hers daughter. We were at a function where everyone there was around 35+ so I found myself talking to her and we played some card games and just talked. Then later my aunt asked me what I thought of her and I thought. Aug 02, There seems to be some confusion over the law, I'll give information for that over large scales. The average age of consent in the US is 16, but many states differ. The highest age of consent in the United States is The Age of Consent is 18 i.
I do somewhat pride myself on my logical more then emotional outlook on life, and thinking things through is just something I do it's just the way I am. Sadly I often over think things, and that as well has caused problems with past and possible relationships. I'd stay away - someone that age has so much growing to do still emotionally, and being so young, at some point she'll want to see other people - just leading to heart break.
Just adding to the chorus Seriously don't do it. Even if for some really bizarre reason her parents are fine with it, that means they're fine with it now. That doesn't mean they'll still be fine with it tomorrow or after a few weeks or after a few months. Take that thought even further, if they decide to press charges admittingly far-featched but still very possible, dad's a cop yo.
You're a 21 year old man going after a 16 year old girl. Right or wrong, you have no defense. Seriously, don't do it.
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Statutory rape laws are stupid and vary from state to state. What matters greatly is the circumstances, mainly whether her parent s are likely to have you busted and declared a Sex Offender or not. By the way, does it strike anybody else as stupid that consensual relations with a young woman who's legal in the next state can ruin someone's life, and that a lot of employers etc.
Admittedly this sounds less likely than ruining your life by making sure you become a Registered Sex Offender, but still. My advice is don't do it because it's "wrong" it isn't or because it's illegal so's potbut don't do it because her father is a cop.
If you do insist on being involved with her then make sure you always drive the speed limit, never drink and drive, never possess any illegal substances, try to follow the letter of every law you can think of, and let her win every argument she thinks is important.
You'd basically be mortgaging your manhood and your sanity for fear she really will "Tell Daddy on you.
I was a "mature for my age" and year-old too. Like jessamyn, I very briefly dated a year-old with whom I broke up because I didn't want to have sex.
I also dated a really, really nice guy who put the brakes on due to my age and always behaved appropriately. I remember him fondly, but while it seemed like a big deal at the time, I really just went out with him a couple of times right before I left for college.
Looking back, echoing brittanie, I was more flattered by the attention than really interested. I would say that your position depends mostly on the character and disposition of the people who could pose a threat to your relationship. As for the age difference being a problem between just you and her, I don't think it would be fair to you or her to not give the relationship a chance based on that.
You'll never know if it's a deal-breaker or not unless you let the relationship run it's course.
This applies to any conflict that comes up in the early parts of a relationship. I was 16 when I started by relationship with my fiance, who was In my state, the age of consent is 16, although I was 17 by the time we had intercourse.
I'm 17 right now, but will be 18 when I'm married So far my parents have taken my fiance very well, they both like him a lot and are confident he's doing his best to treat me well. His parents seem to be afraid that their son is taking advantage of a young, impressionable sixteen year old The first man I fell in love with I kept a secret the entirety of our relationship.
I was 14 when it began and he was ten years older. There were many things wrong with our relationship, but I don't feel like the age difference was one of them.
Right now, I'm watching my girlfriends who are older than me make the same mistakes I did then. That's a terrible plan. Sixteen-year-old girls can appear very mature - especially when you want them to - but they're still kids. I'm a girl. I developed early. Adult males made sexual advances toward me when I still very much felt like a child, and it was scary.
In retrospect, I'm sure that some of those guys were deluding themselves into thinking that I was "very mature for my age", which made it okay, I guess?
Even if this kid is giving you the impression that she a wants you and b knows what it is to want an adult male, the second cannot be true. She's a kid. Don't do it.
There are incredibly large portions of the population who believe that rape cases should be considered "guilty until proven innocent" and many of them will even tell you that in those exact words. She's probably more mature than a lot of year-olds, there's a good chance she's more mature than a lot of year-olds, but there are so many unknowns towards the beginning of any relationship that "Will I end up on a sex offender's registry for the rest of my life and be banned from certain jobs and even neighborhoods?
I've seen way too many guys like you end up on sex offender websites for stuff like this. Run screaming. She will forget about you when she goes to college anyway. For sex offenders, it is really, really not fun.
Jul 16, Absolutely. The love of my life found me in my school uniform in I was years old and he was 22 years old. He was working and I was still studying. "without sex" - He never once pressured me to have sex with him but I insisted on it afte. But 22 year olds that will go out with a 16 year old will almost certainly make my prediction come true. Its not me, its my best friend. They really like each other, it shows but the guy told her that he feels guilty, and i just wanted to make sure if it was fine, and to show my friend so she wouldnt get so upset. A friend of mine, at the age of 22 or so, started dating a year-old. He learned the valuable lesson that if you actually have to look up statutory rape laws in your area to make sure your relationship is legal, you really shouldn't be in that relationship.
Everyone will hate you in jail. You would run a very high risk of being sexually assaulted, beaten up on a regular basis or maybe even killed. Is that logical enough for you? Anecdote alert. We got physical within a few weeks of meeting.
That being said 18 year olds have generally been too young for me since I was Then again, "highschool romance" has never been my thing because it comes with a fair amount of drama most of the time.
I've loved women since before I became a man. I couldn't do girls back then and certainly can't now that I'm older.
Thetruth Send a private message. Why would you think that she's too young4 years is the perfect age gap, anyone who thinks it is too much is a loser. Edited on December 3, at UTC by the author.
Supervillain Send a private message. Is an 18 year old girl too young for me? Being a kid yourself, practically, I would say no. As you get older, a 4-year age difference is relatively minor. When you're 26, maybe then 18 is out of reach. But the real question, as others have alluded to, is can you relate? Is she still living at home with her parents and you're not, then she will probably seem immature to you. With a lack of relationship experience kid stuff doesn't countshe also likely won't be ready for anything serious.
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